1. When was your first date and what was it like?
We went to Millennium skatepark, smoked cigarillos and talked about marrying each other. I was 14 at the time, I should mention. It was really romantic and I lied to my parents about it and told them I was seeing a Lindsay Lohan movie in the theater with my brother.
2. On average how many dates do you go on every week?
I usually go on 1-2 dates per week, 2-4 if I am seeing someone exclusively.
3. What was your best date like? What about the worst?
The best date I had was with Vincenzo, an Italian banker. He knew the owners of Prego (this nice Italian place in Eau Claire) and got the entire restaurant booked just for the two of us. There were rose petals everywhere and they let us smoke on the patio. Then we went for a walk down by the Bow and it was really beautiful.
My worst date was my Ikea date. I met the guy when I worked at Chinook Centre. He worked at Le Château and I worked at XXI Forever. He took me to Ikea to furniture shop—it was weird first date material. “Let’s plan out our future together,” type of thing. And then he told me that he was an extreme Christian and that his dad beat him with a belt when he was little. Then he tried to give me a foot massage in Second Cup and asked if I would be okay with a hickey. It was just odd.
4. Do you think it’s acceptable for a guy to take a girl on a date using Calgary transit, or does he need to have a car?
I used to be a twat about this, but I think that some of the best dates are the nice casual ones. Cars are over-rated. I don’t even own a car so I feel like it’s a double standard to expect the guy to have one. I rep public transit.
5. You’ve probably been taken to a number of fancy restaurants and Operas. Are your standards permanently high now? If a guy wanted to do something like smoke cheap cigars in that park downtown across from Crack Macs would you be down?
I used to be really pretentious about where I went and what I did, but I’ve come to realize that I am not an extravagant person. I’m a student making minimum wage. One of the best dates I had was drinking lukewarm coffee and playing 007 on N64 until 2 in the morning. For me, the best component of a date is definitely conversation. What makes a date ‘great’ is if you can talk openly with one another, and share a similar sense of humour. I’ve done the sugar-daddy dating type-of-thing and it was so depressing. Sure Vegas is nice, and it feels fancy to eat a $200 steak, but if the date is boring, there’s no amount of money that can make it interesting.
Cheap cigars+crack mac park= awesome date.
6. Do you have a policy on how many dates you need to go on with a guy before you take things to *~the next level~*. Do you think that’s something that the guy has to initiate?
I’ve had sex on a first date. I’ve waited two months to have sex. It really depends on the guy. Some people are worth it, and some are not. I think it’s always best if the guy initiates it, but when its supposed to happen, it’s usually a mutual thing. Oh, I should mention. Erectile dysfunctions are a lot more common than people think. Especially during the first time. There’s such a stigma against it, but it happen to a lot of guys.
7. Have you ever had a guy try to jump the gun and take things to *~the next level~* after the first date? How do you deal with that?
In the past, I used to just go along with it and have really unsatisfying sex. Now I’ll just tell him that I don’t have sex on first dates (even though sometime I do. It’s a great cop out). Or I’ll make up an excuse. (Late night coffee with a friend is always a good one). I’ve had to slam a door on a guy once because he was being too persistent and I kneed another in the groin.
8. What are some things you wish all guys knew about going on dates?
Hygiene and style. I don’t go on second date with guys who wear flip flops. I think that how a guy takes care of himself is representative of how he’ll treat me.
Also, I hate when guys try to pretend that they are much more than they are. I dated a guy who took me out to extravagant places and vacations, only to find out that he was $300,000 in debt. I would have been perfectly content if he had been upfront about his situation and taken me for McDoubles.
And women are actually pretty easy to impress. I’m not even kidding. Just don’t bring up your childhood trauma/drug addiction/deep rooted emotional issues until the third date.
9. Do you think it’s okay for the girl to pay?
I am more comfortable if it’s an equal thing. I love paying, but some guys have told me its emasculating to have a woman pay. I like being able to organize dates though, and feel like I’m taking the guy out. It doesn’t happen that often though. Boys are silly.